The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
Michael S. Sorenson
This book was recently gifted to me from a brother in a men’s group I had been attending for the last year. He shared that after reading it himself, he purchased a bunch of copies and has been gifting them ever since. First and foremost, I would like to say thank you to this friend who bestowed this gift upon me, and through his gesture sharied that communication and validation are of value to him (I hear you brother).
This book is a pretty quick read, and the author acknowledges that early on in the introduction. In fact, the author goes on to share that despite the appeal to add additional content to create a longer book, they instead elected to not dilute the message and maintain the focus on the original intention. In a world of information overload, a big thank you goes out to the author for keeping their message clean.
This book is a combination of principles that can be applied as well as “real world examples” to illustrate these principles. In fact, much of the book is conversational, illustrating the concepts being taught. Personally, I found many of these examples to hit pretty close to home. Simply change a name, location, or small detail… and I found myself in conversations I have had in the past. If only I had the wisdom then this book has provided now. Hindsight may be 20/20, but I feel after reading this book, my vision moving forward is a little clearer.
The truly good listeners of the world do more than just listen. They listen, seek to understand, and then validate. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
More often than not, people who vent or complain already know how to handle their current situation – they’re just looking for someone to see and appreciate their struggle. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
While everybody likes the feeling of validation, very few people know about it by name. They can sense when they are or aren’t receiving it, but rarely do they know what to call it. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
Validating positive experience is not only possible, it’s critical to developing healthy, satisfying relationships. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
Most people don’t question whether we understand their words; they want to know that we’re connecting with what they’re sharing. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
You do not need to agree with the other person to validate them. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
Try to see things from their perspective. If you only had their side of the story, chances are good that you would react in a similar way. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
Once you show that you truly hear them, they will be much more likely to hear you. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
When you need validation, ask for it specifically rather than hoping others figure it out. Michael S. Sorenson: I Hear You
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